tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5485642478377467371.post7266418173969403886..comments2023-06-07T07:37:31.507-04:00Comments on Needles & Pens: I Will Be a Fat BrideBeccahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12044821579477743187noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5485642478377467371.post-44533572516420692232009-08-24T08:30:20.972-04:002009-08-24T08:30:20.972-04:00WHO said you needed to lose weight? i know that I ...WHO said you needed to lose weight? i know that I didn't.This is mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09993213309015493397noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5485642478377467371.post-43819239730521753752009-08-22T19:30:16.565-04:002009-08-22T19:30:16.565-04:00I suppose, as long as you're happy, and feel h...I suppose, as long as you're happy, and feel healthy, the number on your dress should be the VERY last thing you're worried about. Who else is going to see it except you and the boutique? You will be a gorgeous bride, and have a fun and loving day of celebration! :DKim-Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03533921795972472709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5485642478377467371.post-1857841266136279582009-08-22T14:06:31.783-04:002009-08-22T14:06:31.783-04:00I hate how everyone uses the phrase "The Weig...I hate how everyone uses the phrase "The Weight." You know, "when are you going to lose The Weight?" Or maybe "I'd be happy with how I look, if it weren't for The Weight." <br /><br />It's like it's some sort of alien that is somehow Other than you (capital O on purpose). People have mass. I still cannot abide a culture that insists that a major character virtue is the ability to become smaller. Because, honestly, when people want you to exercise for your health, what they really mean is that they want you to exercise to lose The Weight.<br /><br />Most people who exercise stay pretty much the same size they are. Or, they'll lose it and it'll come back sooner or later. I work out all the goddamn time (6 to 8 hours a week) and I'm still the same size. Granted, I'm much, much stronger and faster and more fit than I was, but on top of all my muscle is still a fat belly and a big ass. <br /><br />And I've had to become ok with that. I'm healthy. I'm fit. And, to people exposed constantly to the size six or less beauty ideal, I am fat. (Though really, I can't abide a culture who thinks that 12 to 14 is huge, but that's a rant for another day.)<br /><br />Getting back to the topic at hand, you will look gorgeous and awesome on your wedding day. You'll be beautiful and happy, and anyone who thinks you should have lost The Weight before being allowed to feel happy and beautiful on your wedding day can go fuck themselves.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07261255120770111064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5485642478377467371.post-14923218806080899512009-08-22T13:23:13.285-04:002009-08-22T13:23:13.285-04:00Being OK with being a "fat bride" was th...Being OK with being a "fat bride" was the most liberating thing I ever did. Like everyone else, I had grand plans to lose the weight/get fit/save the world before the wedding. But, life intervened. In fact, it intervened in a big way -- hubby had a major medical emergency about 6 months before the wedding, was hospitalized, and spent months recovering. That was right around the time I was supposed to buy my dress. I remember everyone sort of tip-toeing around the dress size (which run waaaaaaay smaller than regular clothes anyway) and encouraging me to try to lose "a little" for the pictures. And it's like, no way, this is me, the next few months are going to be hard enough with real life issues rather than trying to diet so that I look thinner in photos. So I got the dress at the size that was comfortable and that was that. And it looked great! As for any worries about wedding photos -- that's why there is Photoshop! A little tweaks here and there really make a difference!<br /><br />Good luck with your wedding planning!eve-mariehttp://eve-marie.comnoreply@blogger.com